Anger is a normal and healthy human emotion. Sometimes it is easy to fall into the trap of believing that anger is bad. Sometimes we judge ourselves for being angry. Of course, the truth of it is that it’s not anger that’s bad, but what we do with our anger that can be good or bad, what we choose to do with it. Sometimes it feels like we don’t have a choice, right? Like the anger becomes so powerful that whatever we do it just spills over and we have no control.

I want you to know that if that describes your experiences, or how you feel about it, I get it. Firstly, there is nothing wrong with you. Don’t label yourself. Don’t give yourself a hard time, or think you are somehow a bad person.

These are the very things I work with children and young people on. Be curious about your emotion and learn to deal with it in a healthy way. Let’s see what this is trying to tell us. Do you need to be heard and validated? Does your anger need this? Maybe it isn’t going to go away until someone acknowledges it and most importantly, validates it.

Firstly, you can do this for yourself to begin with… validate your own emotion. I feel angry. It’s okay to be angry. If you do something bad with that anger, this is where you put a boundary in place for yourself. It is not okay to do this with my anger. I must learn to express it in a better way.

People will respect you for this. You will respect yourself for this.

Reach out if you need some help. Ask an adult you trust to listen to you – maybe they can validate your reasons for being angry.